As much as possible, I believe in looking at the present and setting up a successful future. Although our past struggles (and successes!) influence our current and future decisions, behaviour, and feelings, I believe we are all striving to meet our needs for love and belonging, freedom and choice, positive power/competence, and fun, in the best ways we know how.
Mindfulness, Reality Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Narrative Therapy are methodologies that focus on what is helpful to us, on the power of our thoughts, even on the mind-body connection and the connection between our personal identities and our communities and cultures.
Accepting the challenge to be gentle with ourselves about past scars and manage current difficulties by looking at how we might better meet our primary needs can be frightening, confusing, and even exciting. A therapeutic relationship with someone who supports you to take appropriate risks, reminds you that it is okay to make mistakes, helps keep you motivated, and listens deeply, really makes a difference. You are the expert on you. I am the expert on some of the theories and practices that others have found helpful or liberating. Together, we should be able to imagine some kind of better – and make progress toward it!