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Sex Dance
Not in a relationship and deciding between somewhat casual sex and celibacy?
My current sense of some of what I’m messing about with is that there may be a third option, something between celibate and sexually active. For example, if Jennifer Lopez or Beyonce were not currently sexually active no one would call them celibate. No matter how long it had been for them. When you dance like they do it seems like a form of sex.
My Burlesque dancing classes seem to provide a diverse group of women with a way to have sex while wearing clothes (granted not a lot in some instances but without the high heels most of us would fit in at the gym or yoga studio.) Perhaps, there are other activities that provide a similar liminal experience?
The other thing is we ARE there for each other. Our fabulous teacher is there for us. Performing together is an intimate, bonding experience. The Big Brain Question is answered, “yes”, and we experience feeling sexy and powerful for an hour a week (or, in my case, taking 3 classes ramps that right up!)
It’s not a substitute for an intimate, romantic relationship, obviously, but if you were not choosing to commit to a relationship of that sort, would it be the missing bit in an otherwise, mostly, fabulous life?
Aging Consciously
This is kind of for Joel, ’cause he and I are so bloody aware of the things that go on for ourselves … and others – if we turn our attention to their situation – but the situations of others rarely cause the same kind of angst as the things that visit us personally. Like [...]
I have 2 dogs sleeping upside down in my kitchen. One is 2 months old. The other is 10 months old. Looks like they will be the best of friends.
It is so hard to have a baby. I can no longer remember exactly how hard, but I can get glimpses from 30 years ago. Only 22 [...]
Accidental bullying?
You know why I am very, very, very much against this message?
Because the girl you called a slut may not be a virgin. She may be sleeping with a lot of people. It is her business, not yours. Stop judging. Not because maybe she did “nothing wrong” but because it is her life, not [...]
A Rationale for Double Blocks
I haven’t been posting much. Lots of reasons, of course. But for 3+ years I posted faithfully on my stated schedule. Why the sudden silence? Upon reflection, some of it is because it is difficult to write about what I want to write about.
My passion is my work as a school teacher [...]
The Skinny
I'm the blonde!
Well, the last time anyone would call me skinny I was probably 10 years old. Hard to remember back so far into the mists of time. But I have liked the adjectives coming my way over the past 6 months: svelte, slim, fabulous.
I started admitting, in December, that it was hard keeping [...]
Dear Brodie
Yes, I have two dogs and, although Chaz has hogged the spotlight with his little puppy introduction to our abode, Brodie has been in my life for 14.5 years. It’s time for a letter to my sweet little man dog.
Dear Brodie,
Thank-you for patiently accepting Chaz into our home and not taking too long to fall [...]
Old Boyfriends
Heard a song on the radio. You know how that goes. Suddenly, it’s 1996 and my then-boyfriend is pulling his Forerunner to the side of the highway and jumping out. The music is LOUD and he leaves his door open. He’s at my door before my brain can catch up to the vision of him [...]
I am posting this … with the link from whence I borrowed the article. HERE
The article speaks for itself in this time (February 2012) of escalating job action, strike votes, and a government legislated contract rather than a negotiated contract.
On Waitressing… and Teaching
by thebtablog
The following article, by ex-waitress J. Boulanger, appeared first in the June 1993 issue of [...]
Hello Chaz,
It’s been a while since I felt a letter was in order. Sure, we’ve been having a good time. Finding Robert Burnaby park where leashes are optional (in part of the park – we may have to restrict our joy once the spring strolling-through-the-forest crowd comes back) and squirrels are waking from their winter naps. [...]
Biggest Mover Challenge
Not sure I like the name of this challenge. Makes me feel like I should be driving around in a large truck with a big red heart on the side: 2 Little Men with Big Hearts Moving Company.
Might make a good reality show on one of the home improvement channels. After Ty has smacked [...]
Webs Don’t Work! – A little teacher indulgence today.
How often, as teachers, do we hear that webs don’t work? The government says we should teach students how to use them to take notes and to use for planning their writing. Unfortunately, I think some teachers – who agree with the students – have never experienced the [...]
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